Valentine's Day (or as my friends in NY used to call it "Singles Awareness Day"), comes with all kinds of expectations and societally imposed ideas of how we should feel, what we should get and puts all kinds of pressure on us to have a Valentine. If you remember, some of us in school brought Valentine cards for the kids in our class, everyone was supposed to get one. That didn't always work, and if you didn't get one, it felt as if life were over.
Well, here are some ideas to help us grown-ups be in control of how we feel and what happens for us this Valentine's Day.
1. Wake up happy. Valentine's Day this year is on Monday. Set yourself up this Sunday night and decide that you will be happy when you arise on Monday. It's amazing how a decision like this works.
2. Set aside a few minutes that morning to be grateful for what you have and more grateful for what you haven't got.
3. Wear clothing that makes you feel great. Set yourself up to feel good all day. Today is the day to exude confidence, abundance and peace (or pick your favorite 3 adjectives and dress accordingly).
4. Release endorphins for yourself. (This is not to replace sex, but whether or not sex is available to you, it's always a good idea to take care of yourself first). Do something for at least 20 minutes to move your body so that you are breathing hard, breaking a sweat, and get in touch with your body which is the vehicle which allows you to have your life.
5. Reach out to the people in your world. Call a friend or family member who you really love and tell them. Spend a few minutes connecting with someone who makes your life better just by being in it.
6. Eat something that satisfies your body, your soul or a craving. Chocolate is the food of the day as it releases endorphins and oxytocin, which are the same hormones that being in love releases. Perhaps treat yourself to some very intense dark chocolate and enjoy the sensation.
7. For each of the people in your immediate circle, remind yourself of their love language (words of appreciation, physical touch, gifts, acts of service, quality time) and take a few minutes to show each of them, in their way how they enhance your world.
8. Get a need of yours met. If there is something you need, big or small, take this day and ask for it. You never know, you may not be getting it because someone may not know it is important to you.
9. Schedule something to look forward to. February and March, traditionally are the "darkest" months, so schedule something for yourself that will occur during the next 6 weeks that every time you think of it, it makes you happy and gives you energy.
10. Whether you are happily married, engaged, single, in the middle of a transition, take Valentine's Day and BE LOVE. What I mean by that, you can let go of judgement, self or other, and just look for the good/ or the spirit in everyone you encounter. By doing that, you will guarantee yourself a love-filled Valentine's Day.
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